The dynamics of Judging Objectively
The next sections are some ways to learn how to objectively judge other people. They are guidelines to help us maintain a positive outlook on life and not get dragged down by other's negativity whilst at the same time not living in La-La Land where we are not prepared to protect ourselves against the negative side of humanity.
Until now we have been focusing on seeing the good, but that doesn't mean negative influences don't exist - they do. We just want our mind to focus on what is good in the world because that will make us happy. We cannot focus on the bad, we need to focus on the good stuff in our lives. This section hopes to provide some guidelines to help walk the line between the two.
Learning to judge people / situations has four steps:
When we pass judgment we need to start a court case. Listen to the charge and then decide if it is serious enough to warrant a court case. (not a REAL court case, silly) If someone were to step in front of the judge is the charge worth the judges time and attention? In this situation, we are the judge.
1. Does this come under our jurisdiction - do I need to know about it so I can take action? Has this negative comment or action got anything to do with me or my life?
2. Is it important enough to dwell on or is the accusation trivial?
3. Is the person reading out the charges a trustworthy person?
Bottom line - Do I really NEED to know this information?
Make a note (mental or otherwise) of how many times someone concentrates your attention on something negative, unpleasant or not to their taste, whether it be about another person, place thing or event. Then at the end of the day add up how many of those comments you really need to hear.
If there is someone in your life that is always filling your head with negativity, it is time to turn that off. It is time to turn on our filter and only accept necessary information. It is a constant battle to shut out the negativity, but it is necessary. People that struggle seeing the good in things love to share the negativity. We don't have to see the world through them.
If we can filter out the bad and share the good, we may even change those negative people into positive people. Stop being dragged down and maybe start dragging people up!
Warren, S. 2010, 7 Ancient Keys To Happiness, CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform
The next sections are some ways to learn how to objectively judge other people. They are guidelines to help us maintain a positive outlook on life and not get dragged down by other's negativity whilst at the same time not living in La-La Land where we are not prepared to protect ourselves against the negative side of humanity.
Until now we have been focusing on seeing the good, but that doesn't mean negative influences don't exist - they do. We just want our mind to focus on what is good in the world because that will make us happy. We cannot focus on the bad, we need to focus on the good stuff in our lives. This section hopes to provide some guidelines to help walk the line between the two.
Learning to judge people / situations has four steps:
- Hearing the charge
- Listening to the Prosecutor
- Hearing the Defense
- Handing down Judgments
When we pass judgment we need to start a court case. Listen to the charge and then decide if it is serious enough to warrant a court case. (not a REAL court case, silly) If someone were to step in front of the judge is the charge worth the judges time and attention? In this situation, we are the judge.
1. Does this come under our jurisdiction - do I need to know about it so I can take action? Has this negative comment or action got anything to do with me or my life?
2. Is it important enough to dwell on or is the accusation trivial?
3. Is the person reading out the charges a trustworthy person?
Bottom line - Do I really NEED to know this information?
Make a note (mental or otherwise) of how many times someone concentrates your attention on something negative, unpleasant or not to their taste, whether it be about another person, place thing or event. Then at the end of the day add up how many of those comments you really need to hear.
If there is someone in your life that is always filling your head with negativity, it is time to turn that off. It is time to turn on our filter and only accept necessary information. It is a constant battle to shut out the negativity, but it is necessary. People that struggle seeing the good in things love to share the negativity. We don't have to see the world through them.
If we can filter out the bad and share the good, we may even change those negative people into positive people. Stop being dragged down and maybe start dragging people up!
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