People that don't like to be complimented usually feel that they don't deserve it. Some people don't see themselves as very good or lovable. It is helpful to compliment them and help them to see their good points, as long as we are doing so honestly or it won't be believable. It helps to start small and work your way up from there. Be specific. "I liked how you shared your lunch with that girl that forgot hers, it makes me happy when I see people being kind to one another."
Do you see how we did that? We are complimenting their actions allowing them to see them in a different light and then they can't deny them. This helps them to see the good things too.
Think of someone that would benefit from an honest compliment. Plan in advance what you could say that will hit the spot and make them think, "Yeah, I am good."
We can turn ourselves into positive, up-beat and encouraging people overnight. our friends, family and co-workers will love us for it. People will go out of their way to please us because they are just dieing for honest compliments. We will make friends wherever we go and everyone will enjoy our company.
This exercise will help us develop a more positive way of looking at people, because when we are trying to see what we can compliment a person about, we are focusing on the lovable, successful and good parts of the other person. When we learn to enjoy the pleasure of giving, encouraging and uplifting another person our levels of self fulfillment and joy increase enormously.
This is guaranteed to make you feel great!
Warren, S. 2010, 7 Ancient Keys To Happiness, CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform
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